Feeling Dissatisfy With Your Relationship
Wednesday, January 7th, 2009Do you find yourself blaming and criticizing your partner for your difficulties in your relationship?
You may notice you are saying to your partner or in your head
a lot of “you should of done.”
Lot of criticism
Giving a lot of criticism about what you expect from your partner is creating confusion, anxious and is pushing your partner away from you then maybe trying a new strategy is worth doing if you want to continue your relationship.
Another way in saying what you want is to control the relationship to have what you want and when you want it, and if you do not get it you may take vengeance to little things that bothers you but never about the real thing.
You may find yourself as a fault finder and no matter what your partner does it is never good enough.
Becoming aware that the feelings are coming from you and your partner changing for you will not stop the feeling within you because it belongs to you.
Expense of your partner
If you both in the relationship are constantly seeking to have control and are into scoring points, or putting down each other it is difficult to love the other person.
Harmony in the relationship cannot be obtained at the expense of your partner.
If you are doing things in the relationship to score points in case you do something wrong later then you are doing it for the wrong reason.
Getting the upper hand so you may control your partner is not the way to go for your relationship.
If you feel that opening up yourself to share what is going on with you and you are afraid that it will be use against you later on as leverage with your partner then it stops the relationship from getting closer.
Another tell tale sign of you feeling dissatisfy is when you notice that you or your partner is defensive or resist constructive criticisms that can help you both improve.
This will push you both further away in having good cooperation and communication.
Feeling less love
The feelings when you first meet and became close together was maybe exciting with lots of passion and as the relationship build with years sometimes the love changes and some people have difficult changing and renewing their love and wish it could be as it was in the beginning.
Looking for love in the wrong places hoping to capture your youth by stepping out the relationship keeps you more away from your partner and does not solve the problems in the relationship.
Approaching your relationship with rigidity stops you from learning new ways of communication and learning a new language that can help you have a quality relationship.
Get back
When you want to get back at your partner with vengeance hoping they will feel how you feel, you have less a place inside of you to forgive your partner and you may create a wall around you.
Bitterness, resentment calling of names is some of the signs that may enter into your relationship and may cause you to pull away either emotionally or physically.
Changing the behavior
You have create the behavior, feelings and the environment that lead you to the relationship you have now somehow you have been gaining something from it and that can be more attention, control, confidence, feeling needed or important, that is why the behavior has been around.
Changing the behavior you do not want by understanding and removing what you have been gaining and the relationship changes.
Taking responsibility to make it work and not wait for your partner to do so may take some time to rebuild that trust you once had between you both.
When you first got together you became friends and you learn to listen, share and supported each other and laugh at each other jokes and that maybe need again.
Conclusion : Feeling dissatisfy with your relationship can be an opportunity to create newness and a better relationship full of joy and happiness.
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